A Year-Long Journey of Becoming Who You Were Always Meant to Be
At 3:47 AM on a Tuesday that feels like it happened yesterday and a lifetime ago, I found myself staring at my laptop screen, tears streaming down my face, with 18 QuickBooks windows open and my husband Curtis snoring peacefully in the next room. I was 59, supposedly successful, and completely lost.
That was the moment I realized something had to change. Not in that dramatic, burn-it-all-down way we see in movies, but in the quiet, powerful way that only women our age understand. The way that whispers, “You still have time. You still have choice. You still have power.”
That night, between fielding crisis texts from one of my companies and checking on Curtis (who was recovering from major surgery), I made a decision that would transform not just my life, but hopefully yours too. I decided that every single day, I would make one conscious choice about who I wanted to be. Not what I needed to do – God knows our to-do lists are long enough. But who I chose to be. From that choice, Daily Intentions for Women Over 50: Your 365-Day Transformation Guide was born.
Why Daily Intentions For Women Over 50 Matter (Actually, Why They Matter MORE)
Here’s what nobody tells you about getting older: The world starts making decisions about you without your permission. Suddenly you’re “too old” for that job, “too set in your ways” for that adventure, “too late” for that dream. And if you’re not careful, you start believing it.
But here’s what I’ve discovered after 60 trips around the sun, one bankruptcy, three career pivots, finding my birth daughter at 52, and managing to keep 18 companies afloat while my 25-year-old son still lives at home (love you, Tyler, but seriously…): We’re not fading – we’re refining.
Wayne Dyer said, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” Well, I’m here to tell you that at our age, we’ve earned the right to look at things however the hell we want to. And more importantly, we’ve earned the right to choose who we want to be while we’re looking.
The Power of One Daily Choice
Every morning, before the chaos descends – before the emails multiply like rabbits, before the first financial fire needs putting out, before anyone needs anything from me – I make one simple declaration: “Today I choose to be…”
Some days it’s “peaceful” (usually when I have 47 deadlines). Some days it’s “brave” (like when I decided to share that I found my birth family through DNA testing). Some days it’s “playful” (because someone needs to balance out my spreadsheet-obsessed brain).
This isn’t toxic positivity. This isn’t pretending everything’s fine when your world’s on fire. This is about recognizing that even in the chaos, even in the pain, even in the absolute circus that life can be after 50, you still have one power that nobody can take away: the power to choose your response.
What You’ll Find in This Series
Over the next 365 days (or however long it takes you – remember, we’re done with arbitrary timelines), I’m sharing one attribute each day. Not because you need fixing – Lord knows we’ve had enough of that message. But because you deserve to be reminded of all the different ways you can show up in this world.
You’ll find:
- Real stories from my beautifully messy life (Did I mention the bankruptcy? The time I was an exotic dancer to feed my kids? The current adventure of being CFO for too many companies while learning Dutch pour painting?)
- Science-backed strategies (because our generation appreciates evidence, not just woo-woo)
- Practical tools that actually work when you’re juggling everything
- Unexpected truths that nobody else will tell you
- Community wisdom from women who’ve been there
- Humor (because if we can’t laugh at this point, what are we even doing?)
- Permission slips to be imperfect while you practice
Each daily intention includes the keyword “how to be [attribute]” because I know you’re practical. You don’t just want inspiration; you want instruction. You want to know HOW to be peaceful when your life is chaos, HOW to be brave when you’re terrified, HOW to be joyful when your body aches and your kids worry you.
The Three Truths Nobody Tells You About Personal Growth After 50
Truth #1: It’s Not Too Late (It’s Actually Perfect Timing)
You know what you have that you didn’t have at 30? Perspective. You know what you have that you didn’t have at 40? The glorious ability to not give a damn about the wrong things. You know what you have at 50, 60, 70+? The wisdom to know that growth isn’t about becoming someone new – it’s about uncovering who you’ve always been underneath all those shoulds and supposed-tos.
Truth #2: Your “Flaws” Are Your Superpowers
I spent decades trying to hide my chaotic energy, my tendency to take on too much, my inability to do anything halfway. Then I realized – these aren’t bugs, they’re features. My chaos helps me juggle 18 companies. My intensity helps me love deeply. My all-or-nothing approach means when I commit to something (like writing 365 articles), it gets done.
What are you still trying to fix about yourself that might actually be your superpower in disguise?
Truth #3: The Magic Is in the Mundane
Transformation doesn’t require a retreat in Bali (though if you can swing it, go for it). It happens in the 5 minutes before your morning coffee, in the breath you take before responding to that irritating email, in the choice to dance in your kitchen even though your knees protest.
As Brené Brown says, “We don’t have to do it perfectly. We just have to show up and be seen.” Well, I’m showing up in my perfectly imperfect glory, and I’m inviting you to do the same.
Your Invitation to Choose
Here’s what I know for sure: You’ve made it this far. Through whatever life has thrown at you – the divorces, the diagnoses, the disappointments, the deaths, the dreams deferred – you’re still here. That alone makes you a warrior.
But maybe you’re tired of just surviving. Maybe you’re ready to do more than just get through the day. Maybe, just maybe, you’re ready to wake up each morning and actively choose who you want to be.
This series – these Daily Intentions for Women Over 50 – isn’t about adding one more thing to your plate. It’s about changing how you approach everything that’s already on it. It’s about recognizing that every single day, you get to choose:
- Choose peace over panic
- Choose growth over stagnation
- Choose joy over just-getting-by
- Choose yourself over everyone else’s expectations
How to Use This Series
- Start anywhere – Today is always the perfect day. Don’t wait for January 1st or Monday or when life calms down (spoiler alert: it won’t).
- Read one intention each morning – Before the world gets its hooks in you. Before the to-do list starts screaming.
- Practice imperfectly – Some days you’ll nail it. Some days you’ll forget by 9 AM. Both are okay.
- Share the journey – Comment, connect, tell me what’s working and what’s not. We’re in this together.
- Make it yours – Take what serves you, leave what doesn’t. You know what you need.
The Bottom Line (Because I’m Still a CFO at Heart)
If you’re a woman over 50 who’s tired of being told your best days are behind you…
If you’re ready to prove that growth, joy, and transformation don’t have expiration dates…
If you believe that you still have the power to choose who you become…
Then welcome to “Today I Choose.” Welcome to your daily reminder that you’re not too old, too late, or too anything. You’re exactly where you need to be, with exactly the wisdom you need, to become exactly who you were always meant to be.
Tomorrow, we start with “Peaceful” – because Lord knows we could all use a little more of that. But today? Today I simply choose to begin. And I’m inviting you to begin with me.
After all, we’re not just growing older. We’re growing bolder, wiser, and more authentically ourselves with every passing day. And that, my friend, is something worth choosing.
Ready to transform your daily life with Daily Intentions for Women Over 50? Join thousands of women over 50 who are choosing growth over settling. Read tomorrow’s intention: Today I Choose to be Peaceful and start your journey.
